It’s Okay

It’s getting so close to Mother’s Day.  Many people are working on their brunch menu for mom, buying her last minute presents, sending her flowers. Why do we make such a big deal of this day? Because moms are awesome! We all know this. But for some whose moms are not here, the day can be hard. HARD with all caps hard.

We all face challenges at different points in our lives, and sometime it’s dealing with loss. Even years later, there can be hard days – often around holidays. It’s okay. It’s okay to not feel okay.

You should be able to say, “I’m not okay today”, without being made to feel  you’re not handling things well, or that something is wrong with you.

It’s okay to talk about why you’re not okay. Or not. It’s all okay.

It’s okay to feel not okay when seemingly the whole world around you feels happy and joyful.

It’s okay if you need to practice self-care by taking time for you. Spending time alone or with lots of people around you. It’s okay.

It’s okay to ask for help.

So, how can those of you who are feeling okay, even joyful, help those who are not?

Offer a hug instead of a sideways glance as you keep walking.

Tell them you’re there to listen if they want to share.

Hand them a Kleenex.

Be mindful of others, and think about what you might want if you were not feeling okay.

However you’re feeling this Mother’s Day – it’s okay. Know that tomorrow is a new day.

Things We Learned from Mom

Nearly every month, on the second Saturday, a group of special women gather in the Quad Cities. It’s a group who have experienced mother loss at different stages of their lives. They are a sisterhood, where they celebrate their mothers and support each other through an encouraging network for continuous healing. They are known as QC Motherless Daughters, and they are the inspiration behind The Legacy Project.

As Mother’s Day approaches, this group of motherless daughters reflect on and honor the memory of their moms. Here they share some of their thoughts on what they learned from mom.

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